Often parents state “I’m always with my children.” But I have learned as a parent and therapist there is so much more to “being with” your children. We often miss the signals that children are really looking for from us. Children intrinsically need to know that they are connected to us and we “get” them even in the hardest of times, particularly those times when their emotions are heightened. Nothing brings this to the forefront quite like back to school.
During the fall, back to school chaos shows us the missing pieces in our parenting ways. Suddenly, parents have a forced agenda, kids are shuffled from one place to another on a different schedule and the moments you have with your child can become fleeting and chaotic. WE feel the parent shame of not doing enough, “why don’t you have them in this or that class?” As parents we are faced with the judgement of others and our internal shame of “am I doing enough or the right thing?” Parents, the struggle is REAL! How can you connect with your kids and be with them, in the chaos? How can you meet them where they are at? How can you have a healthy relationship that is growth oriented and healthy, amid the busy-ness? How can we have self compassion and empathy for ourselves?