The holidays are often a combination of wonderful and stressful, especially during those family get-togethers. Children and adults can feel overwhelmed by the change in routine and the increase in sensory input all around (the lights, the music, the smells, the traffic, the crowds of people). The stress and anxiety around the holidays can cause many people to turn to bad habits and over-indulgences of sugar, alcohol, and caffeine. Instead of giving into the stress of the holidays, allow it to be an opportunity to practice self-care. We can care for ourselves by maintaining appropriate boundaries with our loved ones, saying no to non-essential obligations, and finding moments of peace among the chaos. Incorporating self-care will help release some of the worry and stress, and instead bring more calm and enjoyment to your family this holiday season.
What You Think You Need:
A holiday "To-Do" List. While it is important to be mindful of what you need to get done around the holidays, much of that can be done ahead of time. Help clear your mind and organize your thoughts by putting it on a physical list (on paper!) and mark items with the highest priority. Taking the time to jot them down will keep you focused and reduce the risk of forgetting those items.
To live up to expectations. No holiday celebration is perfect. Anything that does not go according to plan provides you with an opportunity to practice your flexibility and resilience. A pinterest fail, a crooked tree, or a burned dinner won’t ruin your holiday — it will create a family memory.
To "eat, drink, and be merry." The stress of the holidays cause many people to lean on their bad habits or overindulge in sugar, caffeine, and alcohol. Everything in moderation; you may enjoy the treats and sweets, but remember to drink lots of water and eat nutritious foods as well.
The hottest toys or gadgets. It is important to model the value of the holidays without the focus being on presents and superficial wants; this will help your children develop reasonable expectations. Depending on your child's age, this can be an opportunity to teach your child about the value of money and responsible spending.
Create a practical budget for your family and do not exceed it, doing so will add stress to your holiday season and new year.
To do it all. Remember that you’re only one person and can only accomplish certain things. Sometimes self-care is the best thing you can do. Others will benefit when you’re feeling less stressed. All of us need some time to recharge our batteries.
What You Really Need:
In order to relax and enjoy this holiday season, is connection with your family. You planned this whole event, so allow yourself to enjoy it!
Plan ahead and decide what is important. Accept your limitations at this time. These limitations won’t last forever. If it