Here Comes Four!
Do you know Four? If you have a Four, I know you do! Four starts off loud, talkative, curious, and full of energy! Four is ready to take on the world, explore, learn, and play. Four’s brain is extremely active, and uses approximately 30 percent of the body’s energy. Four’s body is busy and is also using a lot of energy as it can grow up to 4 inches this year. Four is FUN! They laugh and giggle all the time as they truly show us how to be curious in this big world.
Younger Four has LOTS of energy! And they seem to never tire! Four is in constant motion and needs lots of room to move around; leaving them clumsy and accident-prone. By Four, your child has mastered many of the milestones for development in their bodies: they can walk, run, throw and catch a ball, kick, jump, and climb with more ease. Four is becoming increasingly independent. Parents often find that transitions from activities or environments,like playgrounds, can be a struggle, giving them transition time can help decrease these emotional meltdowns. Giving them a countdown of time till leaving can help Four wrap up playtime on their own terms, easing transitions. Four is all about feeding themselves, getting dressed, stacking blocks, using scissors, and stringing beads. Four has accomplished so much and are driven to learn more every day. Four NEEDS to explore, using all of their senses, and takes the initiative to do so, so finding a way to make sure you have “exploring time” in the schedule will make everyone’s life HAPPY!
Four develops stronger friendships with other children, and play groups are of mixed
sex/gender. Four is starting to learn turn-taking and collaborative play, encouraging activities that allow for creativity and construction will help improve these skills. Four is increasingly concerned about “right” and “wrong” and can be aggressive with siblings at times during play. Remember, Four wants to do good things, they want adults around them to KNOW they KNOW the rules. Support Four by encouraging making positive choices and letting them fail when trying new things. These actions improves self esteem and healthy brain integration.
Four has increased awareness of self and others and they are interested in the differences between boys and girls. Four is curious about their body and it is common for both male and females to masterbate at this age as they discover themselves. Encouraging them to explore when in the privacy of their room is key, strive to not shame them about their bodies or cuisority, provide them guidance.
Four has a short attention span and moves quickly from one thing to another. This spointenaeoty is often viewed as lack of attention or concentration in Fours who attend daycare or preschool. This, however, is a developmentally appropriate trait and not an indicator of inattentiveness or ADHD. Four asks lots of questions and learns best by DOING, so hands-on activities are the best for cultivating their imaginative and dramatic play! Think: puzzles, sand, paint, dress-up, and pretend play. Allow them to play freely! Four also enjoys singing, dancing, rhyming, and being read to. Four has a growing sense of humor and is drawn to laughter and silliness! Use this in times of distress and high emotions, be silly to distract and defect during stressful times. You will be surprised by how quick you can turn strong emotions around with a bit of silliness from a caring adult.